LONE WOLF SURVIVAL
I hate to break it to you, but lone wolves aren’t thriving. They’re surviving. They’re lost. They’re in between packs. They’re hungry, cold, and exhausted. Just because you can function like this doesn’t mean it’s the most fulfilled, happy, successful version of your life. In fact, I know it isn’t.
When humans adopt the “Lone Wolf” Strategy it’s much of the same. They’re between packs. They’re surviving, going through the motions of life. They’re alive of body, but not of spirit. They’re exhausted.
The reality is, humans need connection.
We need (and deserve) to be heard, valued, and appreciated. We are worthy of having these things in our lives. YOU are worthy of feeling these things in your life.
We NEED people we can call and ask for a hand that will gladly offer it (without holding it over our heads or using it as a bargaining chip later - those are not your people, beloved, and the people that really care about your happiness and well-being will not do that).
We NEED people that can be emotionally supportive of and present for us, because we need somewhere to let it all out.
We NEED people that can see, understand, love, and support the truest versions of who we are.
The caveat is that we won’t be able to see or find those people until we:
Figure out who we actually are
Develop the courage and glimmer of confidence to begin to show up in the world as that person.
Oh…you’re also going to have to drop the fake ego that you built as a coping mechanism to “show” everybody you didn’t need anybody. Sorry about that. (Not sorry, it’s going to be the greatest gift you ever give yourself)
Let your freak flag fly so the other weirdos can find you ;-)
You’ll be amazed at how quickly life changes.
With all my love,
Beth
